Monday, March 21, 2011
Hurtful comment
Not sure what to think. I sent a lap quilt out to be quilted. The second time I have done that. Paying someone to quilt my quilt is a luxury that I can't really afford. Half price quilting sale sounded great. This quilter has quilted a quilt of mine before and found problems she didn't like though the quilt went on to win a blue ribbon at county fair. This second quilt i sent her, she sent me a note with 2 or 3 problems listed and then the hurtful comment, "I hope you can still use your quilt..." I have to say this one comment makes me want to stop quilting. I have made wallhanging for friends before but now wonder if they are horrible. My family likes them but this comment makes me think they are junk. If someone thought the quilt was worthless, would you take their money to quilt it?
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Brenda, that is just awful! I've made a couple of small items that i wasn't real happy with, and unfortunately, one was a swap item. The recipient said she loved it, though. For all I know it went into the trash, but at least she didn't purposely hurt my feelings like your quilter. I certainly wouldn't be giving her any more of your business! You would have known if it wasn't good enough to bother with quilting it. Listen to your heart, not to her!!!! Hugs.
ReplyDeletewow, that was not nice at all....and well....I will never send my stuff to her, she will think it is junk.... don't let it bother you...keep doing what makes you happy....
ReplyDeleteOh, dear...I had a lady who quilted for me and always found fault with my quilts...so I stopped giving my money to her and only use supportive, wonderful, quilters!!! Problem solved!! I doubt seriously that there is any problems with your quilts at all...and if there are, who cares, really...only God has perfect work!! My quilts are a wall-eyed mess sometimes...and I still love them just as much!! so my advice? find a loving, fun quilter who loves your work as much as you do...and I know that your family does!! Big hugs!!
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't go back there either! I just don't know how some people can be so hurtful. Finish your quilt and enjoy it. Hugs, jo
ReplyDeleteHi, first time to visit your blog and thank you so much for the book recommendation "A Rush of Wings". I am always looking for new authors to read.
ReplyDeleteAs far as your quilter, I think you have to do what you love and love what you do. I would not let one person's critical opinion take any joy away from quilting.
That was very unkind and I would not go back to her or recommend her to any of my friends. Each one of us is unique in our quilting talents and experience. What really counts is that you enjoyed making your piece and that you felt good about it. Don't let her discourage you. Keep quilting and loving what you are doing! Nola
ReplyDeleteSome people just don't think before they speak, yes, there are mean people everywhere. Hey, this person is not your measuring stick of talent! Who cares?
ReplyDeleteLove that you let your light shine with the scripture on your blog. Do NOT quit quilting!!
:-}pokey
I would never go back there and I would tell this story to all my quilty friends and hopefully she will lose alot of business. She was just hateful. Keep quilting.
ReplyDeleteI just found your blog, and I have to say... don't listen to her! No one is perfect, no quilt is perfect, and honestly, would we *really* want things to be perfect? I always seem to look at mistakes in my work as adored, if wayward, children.
ReplyDeleteI found your blog via Thelma's Eventide quilt along. I would do two things regarding the quilter's hurtful comments...drop her services like a bad habit and keep right on making quilts that are what you want them to be! I'm a beginning quilter myself and have gotten so many tips from reading quilting blogs. These folks are generous and encouraging and one thing I've noticed is even the "pros" make mistakes and learn from them! If they can do it, so can I!! Just do what makes YOU happy! Jan
ReplyDeleteSpeak with your pocketbook!
ReplyDeleteA half price sale sounds like something that is offered to get some much needed work and $$$ into her shop. Hmm, makes me wonder if she's put off other quilters with her fabulous sense of tact, lol. At some point we've all had areas of concern in our quilt tops that can make quilting a challenge. I am prone to wavy borders, just ask my quilters and this is why I have an experienced quilter who knows how to deal with flaws quilt my quilts. At some point we simply stop seeing the flaws in our quilts, we just don't think about them anymore and we enjoy them flaws and all. I do hope you will enjoy your quilt and continue to create beautiful things. Happy quilting! :-D
ReplyDeleteCustomer service is part of many services. If that part is lacking, then take your business to someone else.
ReplyDeleteWe tell ourselves that hateful words shouldn't matter when coming from someone we don't really "value" but they still hurt. Hang in there and "keep quiltin'!"
Brenda, I am a self taught quilter and I mail lots of quilts off to charities and not one has ever came back or received bad comments. However, I took a quilt into my local quilt store several years ago and wanted to match some binding & the owner told me...'I hope you aren't entering this into the fair, the seams are way off and not exact 1/4" & your applique stitches aren't as close as they should be, it would never take home a ribbon. I was dumbfounded. It actually went to a little girl who has cancer who loves it and something tells me she doesn't care if the seams are 1/4" or 4". Dump the long armer and let everyone know who she is. There is a huge difference between being mean and helping someone, she is just being mean!
ReplyDeleteTime to more on to a new machine quilter.
ReplyDeleteCertainly don't use that quilter again. A half price sale would make me think the quilter is lacking for business and that may be that her work is not the quality it should be. Very few quilts are perfect and most machine quilters can work around the problems without being critical of a quilter's work. She certainly did not have tact in telling you about the problem she experienced. Keep on making quilts.
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